This funny love-hate is strange to feel.
Wouldn't go so far as to proclaim a love-hate
It is more like a like-dislike
It actually oscillates so fast in between the two
I can't help having made a hypocrite on account of that.


This something is pretty puzzling.
Suppose A has a problem to deal,
B tells A.."hey you know your problem is so miniscule"
"C has a greater problem to deal with that yours".



B is trying to make A feel better by virtue of downward comparison. I guess something like..be contented that your problem is smaller. Again, knowing that C has a bigger problem than himself (A), doesn't make A's problem any easier to deal with at all. In relation to hypothetical cosmic world with only the existence of A, B and C, everyone has differing threshold of a difficulty of a problem.Problems are of many nature. Physical, physiological, emotional, psychological, yada yada.. A random person may cope better with an emotional problem as compared to a work related problem.


Point is that with the differing threshold, differing problems, how is it possible to compare who's problem is bigger, when each person perceives a problem differently? The warped logic of being happier/less sad when compared to someone else's worser fate is repulsive as well.


In general, this makes no sense to me at all. And it is usually used when one person wants to deviate some attention away from the problem itself, and so he does not feel tasked to make the other person feel better.