Thoughts

Picked up the Lil' bro from his new school on a Friday evening. His new school is coincidently, my old school---The Grand Dame, NJC. From what he says of school, it totally gathers the vibe of a very amused and excited young man (*wriggles eyebrows). Maybe its the Girls or The Long Pants, or both. 1st time venturing back to the school compound since 2003 and its pretty amazing that it hasn't changed, at all. The parade square, the hike up the slope, all the same. i said to him, "wow. cant believe just like that, it was 6 yrs ago." It's scary because it really does seem not that long and that period of time could be 10% of a person's lifespan...well...as morbid as it sounds..Kind of anxious that Time may not allow us the luxury of doing all the things we wish to embark on.So i guess, Treasure the loved ones around, make the most of every day!

Seperately, i was travelling along the BJ Sheares and must say, am very happy to see all the capsules up on the SG Flyer. Can't wait to get on that Ferris..reckon the view will be damn awesome.

Anyways, i snitched this quote from somewhere which i think is deep and worth a second ponder:

"Perfect love is not about form but about its journey and its strife".

Putting into Perspective

The skill of self-sustaining and the process of sharpening this skill is a necessary path to go through. Self-sustaining beyond coping with the physical needs, but to hold the mental and emotional psyche well, independently. The environment will change, but a self-sustaining person, sustains. (for lack of a better word) The depth of this depends on the depth of the person, quite akin to the depth of the foundations of a building. The deeper the foundations, the higher the structure.

Sounds so logical that it seems unnecessary to voice. But in order to be in a good position to help others, it is necessary to be self-sustainable. So that those in the process can count for support in their process to sharpen their skill. I personally like the idea because it brings to mind two things that an older friend repeatedly said :
- You need to help yourself, in order to help others.
- You need to love yourself, in confidence, not conceitedness, in order to help others.

Life is such that sometimes things people say dont mean anything to you at that point, but somehow it sheds light later on.

2008

4 days into the New Year, and it has been good thus far, has been good. New Year resolutions, pan-ed out. Its interesting to note that resolutions dissipate somewhere in Feb, gonna make sure it lives to smell the dawn of 2009. I keep previous resolutions in a tatty diary, called the "Goal Book". Its a cheesy name, but rather...its the "call a spade, a spade" theory. Past enteries include getting 3As for A's, to finish the Bible within 2mths (did it!), to finishing 2.4km under 10mins (forget it!)..there must have been more realistic thoughts in there, but it just slipped my mind. :D


Have been negating the work-life balance thing. Thats unless one's definition of balance is a perfect 12 hrs at work. Not so healthy, because sometimes it can siphon much energy. On the other hand, work is so fulfilling at times (not monetary sense) that makes it really addictive. Addictive as it feeds the ego and feels like an endorphins overdrive. This fulfilment is the chief locomotive of the driving impetus. Work and the sense of fulfilment : chicken and egg relationship.


On a personal level. Sincerity, connectivity, empathy, trust.


Well, i really like how minimal the above 4 points look. It is so bare but forms the bulk of all relationships. Its always good to sit back and reflect upon the quality and depth of relationships, not to drive home the thought of cynism, but to reaccess the reason and the essence. Quantity without depth, evaporates fast, but quality endures and satisfies.


* To Sb: thanks for your new yr's prayer. i hope this is the glimmer yr.