Thinking Aloud

Today is a bad day. Bad because there are problems to deal with and there are no available options to take on, without shouldering on the undesired opportunity costs. (one of the 2 economic theories that i dislike. The other being law of diminishing marginal utility, and how it relates to unsatisfactory Swensons' topless 5, when it turns into coloured soup. )


These days problems get really challenging to deal with. As a child, problems are relatively easier to handle. Because it's usually something quantitative. Like how my brother "really really" wants to play so bad for 30mins, and wants not to study 30mins so much badder. I mean, by all means go ahead. When things start to take on emotional tones, it gets harder to deal with. Sometimes going either ways means hurting A, to placate B, or agonizing C for the benefit of D & E. Sitting on the fence doesnt work also. And in my colleague's words "when you choose not to doing anything, you are making a stand". Oh boy, so annoying.


Otherwise we can have:

1) The "see-how-it-goes" method.
Otherwise referred as the by-the-way thing. After some failed attempts, i learned that this default mode leads to much passive-aggressive thoughts. Its a periodic downward spiral that is very frustrating, as it doesn't solve the problem. It leaves the problem a free rein to fraternize with many random variables. In the end, the problem is NOT solved.
- BAD recourse.


2) The (self) Denial
My favourite. This is actually really therapeutic. But dissipates after 40 winks.


3) The Pros & Cons Mindmapper
Why it is good - Love the way that it is so logical. Label each action with an adjective. Fuss-free
Why it is bad - Try labelling emotions involved with even more adjectives to describe that. An emotion "sad" degenerates to a mind numbing use of superlatives: from "very sad", to "very very sad" to "very very very sad". Perpetually Pointless.


4) Shave a mountain to a molehill
Smaller perspectives make it easier to deal with the problem on a logical and is less emotionally straining. Like how your digestive system works. Props to that.


5) Pray & leave it in His Hands
Afterall, who is the Only that can see beyond the horizon?


Best problem solving way:
4) Panic little, fret not. Minimize mountains to smaller-than-life perspectives. As my Mum always say "You have to live through a day. Either you can choose to live a day feeling really crummy, or you can choose to live a day feeling really happy." Food for thought. 5) Pray and entrust all problems to Him. He is never changing, ever knowing. Who else can possibly know better?


The mere recount of these blogged out words has inherently made me feel so much calmer and stronger to deal with tomorrow. Afterall, each problem, once overcomed, helps us see better within ourselves, better in terms of our perspective and attitudes towards Life. Let nothing demolish the wide-eyed innocence and eagerness from childhood. Let not age be a excuse for cynicism.


Sweet dreams!

Priorities

Made a career progression out of my comfort zone, right on to the passion zone. Very extremely satisfied with that. After soaking in the financial advisory industry, finally its time to find a concentration in here. "Progression" because personally, it's a lot of grit and emotional resiliency to ride through. It's tough to describe the emotional undercurrents, simply cause its so embedded within, and super subjective from person to person. Anyways, it must be that my growing up years was lagi smooth, that makes current work demands and schedules, a major pant. Past problems look really trivial at hindsight. Worrying about assignment deadlines, things like that. But then again, it oft happens that people proclaim their smarts against hindsight. I guess in a decade's time, i'll probably look back on current issues in amusement.

In any sense, being confident/self-assured is as equally important, if not more than just being competent. EQ being more relatable and appreciated than IQ. Positivity beats cynicism. These i try my best to tell CW. But i got no idea how much of a percentage, is internalized by the little brother.

In my spiritual walk, I've been feeling a dearth, disconnected, disjointed. It's obviously a misguided priorities on my part that even the fixed slot for Quiet time has been shuffled about to fit work schedules. This is bad.